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[Article 21]The Anatomy of Suspension Part 2

Exposure

In any suspension the exposure factor plays an important role. The person suspended is sort of “hanging around”, basically unable to do anything other than wait for what is to come and – helplessly!!! – allow that to happen. This “that” may be anything from sexual arousal to mild or even intense erotic stimulation and torment, mind play and a variety of other things.

This “expectation” and – maybe more importantly – the awareness of being helpless is probably one of the most important factors, especially to the person suspended. We call that the “have to factor” – in other words, there is no other option but to accept the lead of the giving partner and no position is as powerful as a suspension, when it comes to that. Being bound on a bed or a table is one thing, but imagine what would happen if we suddenly took the bed away from underneath you. That is what suspension does. It takes away the final element of certainty: physical contact with something solid. Continue reading → Post ID 21

[Article 1]The Anatomy of Suspension

Good question: why would anyone want to suspend someone in an erotic setting? Well, actually, there is a variety of reasons and answers to that question. What you may want to do is use this article to find out what it is that turns your crank.

Most often, when asked this question, people will answer: “Because it is spectacular”. And yes, that is true. It is spectacular. But the question arises: do you think “spectacular” is what belongs in your love life? Do you have fireworks and drum-rolls when you orgasm? In your head sure (hopefully anyway). But in your head is not the same as having a marching band in your bedroom. “Spectacular” is good, but it should not be a reason, at least not the only one. If it is, what you are actually doing is showing off – you are not having an intimate adventure with your partner Continue reading → Post ID 1