• [Article 59]BDSM Protocol

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    Munches:

    First of all, you have to be aware of where exactly you are going. Munches for example are very different from all other BDSM-related gatherings, so let’s start with these.

    A “munch” (originally called “burgermunch”) is a gathering of BDSM-people in a public place. Usually a restaurant. The idea is to provide a non-threatening, low threshold meeting place where people can meet others to talk, find information and exchange ideas. Needless to say this would not be the appropriate place for  revealing BDSM clothing and gear and really not a good place for BDSM behavior. This means no spanking or pouring hot sauce on your subs tongue at your locate Road House. Remember you are in public.

    Also, a munch is usually especially created to provide a female-friendly environment, so “hunting” or “trolling” (i.e. partner search) is not an option. Munches are a gatherings where like minded people can actually meet in a safe environment.  They are a wonderful idea for anyone new to the scene. Continue reading  Post ID 59



  • [Article 21]The Anatomy of Suspension Part 2

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    Exposure

    In any suspension the exposure factor plays an important role. The person suspended is sort of “hanging around”, basically unable to do anything other than wait for what is to come and – helplessly!!! – allow that to happen. This “that” may be anything from sexual arousal to mild or even intense erotic stimulation and torment, mind play and a variety of other things.

    This “expectation” and – maybe more importantly – the awareness of being helpless is probably one of the most important factors, especially to the person suspended. We call that the “have to factor” – in other words, there is no other option but to accept the lead of the giving partner and no position is as powerful as a suspension, when it comes to that. Being bound on a bed or a table is one thing, but imagine what would happen if we suddenly took the bed away from underneath you. That is what suspension does. It takes away the final element of certainty: physical contact with something solid. Continue reading  Post ID 21